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How to Get Even Closer with your Kids

Posted on 03 May 2011

How to Get Even Closer with your Kids

How to Get Even Closer with your Kids

I just spent 3 weeks with my kids in Israel without the “interruption” of school, homework, and after school activities so we were pretty much together 24/7.

It was a wonderful yet intense experience. My kids are all under the ages of 7.

I learned a lot about them and myself, with my buttons getting pushed every few hours (minutes!) by them and their needs but all in all I’d say it was great.

If you’ve been a reader for a while, you know I like to create hand written drawings for kids in order for them to better organize themselves.

What I found is that you can take advantage of drawing not only their schedule and tasks related to organizing, but also their feelings and “intensities”.

For instance, when one of my kids acted up for a reason that was not obvious to me, I put them in a quiet area with a sketch pad and they could draw the scenario that blew up for them. I would sit with them after the finished their drawing and go over what happened with them.

If I wanted to “teach” a lesson without preaching, sometimes I would draw my explanation or my lesson to their intense feelings together with them on their sketch pad.

Or another example is that one of my kids wanted to buy everything he kept seeing in stores. We were in pretty commercialized areas in Israel so there were a LOT of stores around us. I was getting pretty tired of hearing, “Mommy, can we buy this? Can we buy that?” So I said, “You know what, let’s make a list of everything you want to buy and then keep on adding things to the list.” Now all I have to say is, “Go add it to the list!”

Not giving in to his whims about buying things is something really important- not only because I’d be broke but because he needed to learn the concept of delayed gratification.

Now let me go ask my kids if I can make a copy of their list and attach it for you 🙂

2 Responses to “How to Get Even Closer with your Kids”

  1. Liat says:

    I love the idea of drawing out feelings. Would you be willing to share an example picture? Seeing is helpful for me. Thanks for the advice. I love writing down the list idea – excellent.

    • Rivka says:

      Thanks and yes, I’d love to share a picture. I need to first ask the kids because it ended up actually being quite personal to them, which I was so touched about 🙂

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